We ordered up a perfect day for this session with a family we’ve known for a long long time, and it was a blast! The boys had a lot of fun clowning around (which provided for some hilarious outtakes) and we had so much fun photographing them. We were actually the first people to randomly bump into them on an Ann Arbor sidewalk minutes after they got engaged years ago, and now they are a complete family!
I am all about practicing proper etiquette online. I am also all about being truthful. Somewhere in between I find it can get a little blurry.
There has been much written about “trolls” – the Wikipedia definition of a troll is as follows:
In Internet slang, a troll is someone who posts inflammatory, extraneous, or off-topic messages in an online community, such as an online discussion forum, chat room, or blog, with the primary intent of provoking readers into an emotional response or of otherwise disrupting normal on-topic discussion.
I have yet to see any trolls on this blog (hope I didn’t just jinx it), but I find the above description to be a little subjective. “Extraneous or off-topic messages” intended to provoke are obviously inappropriate, but I wonder about the “inflammatory” messages. Is posting a different opinion automatically a bad thing as long as you aren’t being mean or blatantly offensive? Certainly people could view that as inflammatory, but can’t debate be healthy as opposed to everyone just agreeing and patting each other on the back? Besides, intent is hard to measure and someone could get upset and have an emotional response even though no offense was intended or expected… People blog, post, and tweet expecting and hoping for responses, so shouldn’t they be prepared for different viewpoints? It reminds me of a scene in Pulp Fiction where Mia Wallace and Vincent Vega are having dinner at Jack Rabbit Slim’s (you can actually read the entire script here– pretty cool):
VINCENT Actually, there's something I've wanted to ask you about, but you seem like a nice person, and I didn't want to offend you. MIA Oooohhhh, this doesn't sound like mindless, boring, getting-to-know- you chit-chat. This sounds like you actually have something to say. VINCENT Only if you promise not to get offended. MIA You can't promise something like that. I have no idea what you're gonna ask. You could ask me what you're gonna ask me, and my natural response could be to be offended. Then, through no fault of my own, I woulda broken my promise.
Who is really the troll?
As far as I’m concerned just follow a few rules and use discretion and you should generally be okay. I’ve gotten better at this as I’ve gotten older – I’ve grown up (a little) and owning a business that is really a people business has given me new and varied perspectives. Besides, representing a brand online forces you to exercise restraint and diplomacy.
1) Be nice to people
2) Choose your words carefully knowing that a typed message can be interpreted differently than when you say it out loud.
3) Be careful talking about religion or politics and maybe think twice about bringing it up at all in a public forum – strangers will likely attack you.
4) Remember 1,2, and 3 but – don’t be scared to share your thoughts. If someone attacks you for a thoughtful comment that doesn’t fall exactly into line with the opinion of the blogger and his/her minions then who is really the troll? A blogger who bullies people into fear of reprisals if they disagree is a blogger you may not want to follow.
What about you? Have you been attacked by a troll? Have you been accused of being one?